Explanation Update

Hey everyone,

So I am doing a bit of a social media detox. I deactivated my Instagram and all my other social media. I didn’t have much to get rid of, just IG and Reddit basically. I don’t know if or when I’ll ever be back on them.

Donor Update. Mental Health Update.

So how did that Detroit trip go? Well, it was a pretty long flight. I didn’t sleep and had a glass of wine or three with dinner. I don’t usually drink so this made me a bit more tired than I might usually be. I was basically up for 36 or so hours before my full day evaluation. This ultimately led to me being denied on donating a kidney I believe.

The way the process is setup is a bit interesting. The donor and recipient each get their own independent advocacy teams. Mine was made up of surgeons, nurses, a psychologist and a social worker. Each team’s sole responsibility is doing what’s best for their patient.

I have a depression diagnosis in my chart so they(psychologist and social worker) prodded me a bit about that. With how tired I was I got pretty emotional. I’m not ashamed that I cried but I’m definitely disappointed in my inability to hold it together. This lead to some issues being more of a big deal than I believe they really are.

These issues are related to sexual, mental, and physical abuse I’ve suffered throughout my life.

My depression was interesting to them because I don’t, and have never, denied having suicidal thoughts. It’s a constant for me. I liken it to Dexter’s “Dark Passenger” in an odd, but much less serious, way. I’m not driven to kill anyone obviously. My thoughts are more along the lines of a few thoughts a day like, “I wonder what it would feel like to jump off this parking structure” or “I wonder if this Max train would kill me instantly.” I’ve had these thoughts my entire life. I’ve never felt a strong urge to act on them so to me they’re not a huge deal. Apparently they are. I can absolutely see why these would be a huge flag to a mental health professional.

I was physically disciplined as a child, so physically abused. I don’t think this is a big deal but there are definitely issues with it. I may not think it’s a big deal because it isn’t a big deal compared to the other things that have happened to me. This is a big deal.

I was sexually abused as a child. The first instance I can think of was when I was about 6 or 7 and it involved a guy I’d never met masturbating in front of myself and someone else(same age) down by the old Wilbur Ellis train depot. The next instance came a few years later when a friend and I “explored” each other, but looking back the age difference was not okay. Then in my early 20’s I had a childhood female friend rape me. This involved me waking up to her forcing herself on me. We had not kissed at this point and were just friends. She did it again a few days later while we were camping and I was intoxicated. About 8 years after that another woman raped me while down in the North Umpqua. The rapes have lead to me no longer being interested in dating. My social worker was very interested in this and I can see why.

My mental abuse started at a very young age. My mother, on multiple occasions, has blamed me for my father’s suicide. This has lead to me carrying a mountain’s worth of guilt. The string of boyfriends she had all did their own damage to me. I won’t go into their specific instances of abuse but it ranged in severity. My mother is bipolar, at the very least, and has never dealt with it very well.

In the end my social worker decided to pull the plug on the whole thing until I get 6-12 months of therapy. This will make any other donations I try to do be denied. I understand that he is working with my best interests in mind but I’m still frustrated by his decision.

I feel pretty shitty for my recipient. I told him because he kept texting me asking how my trip went. I don’t think they had told him yet. It hurt me quite a bit to have to do that and to be denied at all. My whole reason for donating is a very personal one but ultimately it’s because it’s the right thing to do. Now I feel so mentally broken that my physical body is broken as well.

I basically cried about this for a few hours in Detroit. I couldn’t hold it back as soon as I left the hospital. My hotel was just a few block walk away; I cried the entire walk there. I cried once I got to my hotel room. I cried until I fell asleep. I cried after I woke up.

I also feel extremely bad because my expenses were covered by a low-income assistance grant and I feel like I wasted money that could have gone elsewhere.

I can’t thank Menna enough for being there to talk. Also thanks to Will for offering to stay with me for a week if the donation was approved.

I will be getting into some form of therapy once I can figure out my insurance situation. Apparently I never signed up for it during the enrollment period(I did) and now my window is closed for medical. My eye/dental insurance went through fine. I make too much for Oregon Health Plan so that’s not an option. I can’t really afford private insurance so this will be expensive.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out after my IG post about this.

I have seen a therapist in the past and have been on medication for my depression. I went off Wellbutrin in August ’19 because I don’t like the way I feel on it. I also feel like it’s a temporary band-aid that results in less issue instances but when I do have issues they’re of a greater magnitude, if that makes any sense. Wellbutrin did allow me to set out a game plan and get control of my anxiety. It’s been about 6 months since I went off it and I do not feel I need medication again. I would prefer to not ever be on medication again.

Running

I’m currently injured with an achilles/calf injury that’s really sticking around. I’ll be taking another 3-4 weeks off until The Ruff in March. I won’t have high expectations for this race. For recovery I’m just taking it easy and doing general rehab things, like stretching and massage.

Ultimately I have a lot of healing to do mentally and physically.

Long Time

Hey Everyone!

I just wanted to give a quick update about what I’ve had going on. 2019 was an odd year and I’ll wrap that up in another post(this will be a very long entry. I’ll link it here when it’s done). In the mean time I’d just like to give a quick explanation of what 2020 hopefully has to offer.

Oregruns

Oregruns is an idea that I’ve been floating around for a while. It’s basically the idea that a loose group of athletes with the same idiotic spirit should form a group. These are folks who see ridiculous conditions on the forecast and think, “That looks fun.” These are folks who don’t bat an eye at PNW rain. These are folks who see snow and get a warm feeling. These are folks who always think, “Why not?”

On a side note, I had a middle school teacher who had a sticker in her classroom which read, “Some people look at things and think, “Why?” While others dream of things and think “Why not?” Thanks Brenda.

When I think of Oregon I think of what’s near the PNW. Oregon to me is the PNW. This includes some of BC, all of Washington, Oregon, Northern Idaho, Western Montana, and Northern California. Someone that grew up in Washington may have a similar idea of what defines Washington. To me they’re the same thing by another name. Some may call it Jefferson. Some may call it The Pacific Northwest.

So what else is going on for 2020?

Work

So for the time being I’m working at Intel(Ronler Acres) in Hillsboro. I live just about 2 miles from work. I work condensed shifts in the D1X fabrication foundry. I’m not sure what to say about this work. It’s unique. It’s somewhat exciting because I’m a very important part of a dynamic and changing environment. I get to be a key player in what will influence technology in the future. What I am involved with will likely be in your desktop, laptop, or mobile device in the next few years.

Part of what makes Intel important to me is that they’re taking a chance with me. I’m very appreciative and can’t wait to influence the world in this way. This is very good paying and stable employment. They’re understanding and flexible. They understand that working to live is important.

Organ Donation

So I’ve decided to donate an organ. Well, rather, I decided a few years ago to donate an organ. The list never called me up to the big leagues. I was browsing Reddit back in August 2019, I think. I’d found a comment by a guy who was talking about organ donation. He clearly needed an organ but was reluctant to say it. He helped others with questions about the process. He was pressed to post his information and when he did I jumped on it. His comment was pretty quickly deleted. It’s been quite a few months, quite a few blood tests and pulmonary function tests(I have a history of asthma). I’ll know on January 20th if I’m approved to be his donor. My finances are covered by a very generous grant(Thank You). I’m excited to donate my extra kidney to Cliff in Michigan.

Filming/ChadRuns

I want to expand my filming business by quite a bit this year. I want to attend more races. I want to setup a better storefront to access my media. My media is unique in that it’s a very raw and unique look at trail running. I film most folks in a way that other’s don’t. Runners connect with my product. I just need to get myself out there with a better storefront. I’m excited about this in 2020. I’ve just about setup all the backend stuff for this venture, so expect a big announcement soon.

Race Schedule

Oh man, my race schedule for 2020 isn’t what I expected. My big event is the 73 miler up at Bigfoot in August. This event will coincide with my birthday. I’ll get to see *trail* friends I haven’t seen in over a year. I couldn’t be more excited for this event.

Before that, though, I have a few other events to attend to. The Megafatass, some half marathons, some PDX Trail Series events, and a handful of other fun events are going to fill my calendar.

I also really hope to get my brother into longer distance running. This is somewhat important to me.

Expect a long post summarizing 2019 in the near future.

Hardesty Trail

I recently got a Zhiyun Smooth 4 gimbal. It’s a pretty interesting device that allows for pretty much any modern smartphone or GoPro to be mounted in it.

What it does is stabilize the device that you mount in it. This produces smooth video footage while you’re moving.

I pair the gimbal with an app called Filmic Pro. Filmic Pro is a pretty useful app that integrates with the Smooth 4 very well.

The device I’m filming with, unfortunately, is my Samsung Galaxy S7. It does a decent job recording at 1080p and can only do 30fps because of a software limitation that doesn’t allow 3rd party apps to do 60fps recording. Thanks Samsung.

Zhiyun Smooth 4

I’ll be producing more quality content using this setup in the future. At the moment I’m learning how to properly edit footage.

One issue is my laptop’s power. It somewhat struggles editing footage and especially exporting it. I’ll be figuring out how to work around that.

The Smooth 4 case fits super well in my running pack, the Ultimate Direction Jurek pack, so it’s coming along with me for most of my runs. I’ll be filming a Table Mountain run tomorrow.

In the mean time below is an unedited video of Hardesty Trail in Forest Park, Portland, Oregon.

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